Act Wisely to Avoid Unnecessary Disputes

Adapted from: [Page 32 CreativeLife 8th Issue 2005]

It is a fact that mothers can be quite annoying. (Lols)

You canot help being put off and say," Stop naggin. I was just about to do so!" Or, you may feel angry that your mother does not seem to understand you. Or may feel sad that she does not trust you enough.

But how should we respond during such instances?
(How do we stop the Nag which is irritating, frustrating, anno...you get my msg=).)

SGI President advices us in this manner in his "Dialogue of Hope":
"First and foremost, say "Yes, mother!" I'll do it! with a smile. I'm sure when your parents see you responding in this manner, they would have nothing else to say. Of course, you may not carry out what you have just said ultimately, but the point here is, act wisely to avoid unessary dispute."

You may read this as mere humour ( It's in the mag i didn't add this). But herein lies an important lesson when communicating with parents.

"Obedience to your parents means that no matter how unreasonable they may become or how venomously they may speak to you, you should not become slightly angry or look displeased. Nor must you contradict them in the least." (Gosho Zenshu p 1527)

Its a universal attitude a child should assume transcending any age.

"At least Throw them a smile 2 or 3 times a day" (Gosho Zenshu p 1527)

(My note: Oh yep, just do that for Peacesake. I mean imagine yourself slogging like hell and all stressed up and come back seeing your children from Hell, whoa Devasting? Let your parents have a break, let them have a smile and probably a Kit kat :P )